How to Assist Older Youth Cope During Shelter in Place Orders and Social Distancing
“Feelings are just visitors, let them come and go.”
-Mooji
During this time of uncertainty, families are needing to re-adjust their home life to ensure the safety of their loved ones and complying with shelter in place orders. These changes to our daily lives have an impact on the level of stress and tension that our families are experiencing. Caregivers are in need of tools to aid their children in adjusting to this new normal. Social distancing does not mean social isolation, as we can create connections and interactions daily to support our children and loved ones. It is important to determine how much you disclose to your child based on their age and maturity level. Engaging in open communication and discussions with them about why there are restrictions will enlist their cooperation. Reassure them that their safety and others in your community is a priority. Monitor your own feelings and anxiety, as children will pick up on your emotions during this time.
Activities to Consider:
Establish a daily routine: All children even older youth need normalcy and structure.
Develop a daily schedule to help keep everyone on track.
Keep your child engaged in their educational activities. If you do not have a computer or laptop, most school districts are providing access for students to laptops during this time. Internet provider are now providing free access to families with school aged children.
Allot time each day for your child (ren) to work on their education if your school is not conducting virtual learning.
Go for walks as a family or engage in outside activities Allow time for your children to talk via FaceTime, Zoom or the telephone with their friends.
Allow social media time.
If your child becomes anxious, take 1:1 time with them and listen to what their concerns are; it’s okay to acknowledge your own fears and anxiety. Reassure them that their feelings are normal and it can be helpful to talk.
Contact your local mental health mobile response team if your child is unable to be consoled. If your child needs ongoing support to cope, contact your local mental health providers to establish services. Most providers are providing telehealth sessions.
Should you have any additional questions or need support in the area of mental health, please reach out to Amy Moncion at any time at amoncion@collaborativecorner.org.
Amy Moncion, MSW, LCSW
Panelist, Mental Health Qualified Supervisor
amoncion@collaborativecorner.org